In this video, I’m going to tell you how to hypnotize someone to do what you want. For example, these are the same strategies that a therapist or coach could use to elicit change in a client, or that a salesperson could use to create more sales, and even a skilled public speaker could use to sway an audience By the end of this video, you’ll discover the intelligent way to look at hypnotic influence and learn a few things you can implement today to be significantly more persuasive, i.e. get people to do what you want more often.
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In this blog post, I’m going to explain how to hypnotize someone to do what you want step-by-step. The steps may surprise you. You may also be surprised by my candid tone, but I want to make sure to tell you the truth so you can actually get results with hypnosis, not a bunch of BS so you can feel like a badass, but not be able to do much of anything with conversational hypnosis. Sadly, many hypnosis programs fall into the latter category…
First: Hypnosis ≠ 100% Overt Control Over Others.
First, let’s be real. Hypnosis is NOT 100% overt control over someone else. It’s one of many tools that can be used to encourage people to think and act in the ways that you want them to. It’s an art because frankly it’s a form of rhetoric and requires you to actually understand people and more specifically the person you’re speaking to. With the right considerations, hypnosis can make you significantly more persuasive, but it’s not going to turn you into a puppet master or a god. That said, let’s explore a better question, “how do you stack the deck to be more persuasive more of the time with hypnosis?”
But before we get to the hypnotic parts, there are a few things many people don’t understand and frankly often neglect to teach that makes hypnotic persuasion so much MORE powerful than just the words alone… And in this video, I’m just going to touch the surface as each of these topics could easily be its own course… but you can definitely take what I’m saying here and use it!
Rapport Is A Major Key To Hypnosis Success
I cannot emphasize this enough, without rapport, no persuasion happens. You don’t need them to love you, but rather just to take what you say seriously. Think about Steve Jobs: he had rapport with his employees, but many of them hated or were deeply afraid of him. Did they love him? Maybe not. Did they do what he said? Yes.
Emotional Awareness Is Just As Important For Hypnotic Influence
Understand human motivations are very heavily emotionally based. People more often than not make emotionally charged decisions and apply logic later. I mean, think about the last 10 or so decisions you made: did you sit down and weigh the options or do what felt right? Think about the last few major decisions you made…
And I know there are some hardheaded people that will argue with me: I always make logical decisions. I used to do that too—I mean, I studied philosophy in college—and I was STAGNATED and UNABLE TO DO MANY THINGS because I was constantly re-re-rethinking my decisions… I’d encourage you to really rethink this position. Just because something is logical, doesn’t mean that you chose it based on logic. For instance, people could drastically change their lives by starting a business and working on it when they get home from work, but few people really want to do that, which is why there are more television views than hours spent on businesses… Likewise with investing or even just saving money. More people want to spend money feeling good than saving it. How many poor people do you know with the latest iPhone or Yeezys? And don’t even get me started on how much many poor gamer kids spend on Magic the Gathering cards. Decisions are OFTEN emotionally made, then justified with logic afterwards.
But on point, a major key to using hypnotic persuasion, and frankly most persuasion, is focusing on the pathos, the emotion of the decision. This is why even Aristotle dedicates so much of his Rhetoric to studying how emotions can affect an audience, and how pairing emotions in the right way can provide enthymemes, i.e. things to consider.
So, to use emotion in persuasion, you need to think what does someone need to feel to make the decision? What would make a smoker want to give up cigarettes? Many people are dismayed to remember that they started to be cool, but now stand outside being cold and ostracized. This is a major reason people want to quit. Do you think amping up this feeling and pairing it with the sense of accomplishment and power from quitting could help them get much further? If you want to sell a car, what does someone need to feel in order to want to buy that car? What would inspire someone to switch from their current supplier to you? What would they need to feel to make that switch? Confident you are the right choice? Knowing they’d be the office hero if they could cut costs by 20% and have the same or better service?
And finally, hypnotic anchors rely almost entirely on emotional states. More specifically, the anchor recalls an emotional state. And why are anchors helpful? To unconsciously attach emotion to something!
Framing Can Do Most Of The Work Of Hypnotic Persuasion
Framing is another important part of hypnotic persuasion. Frames are the limiting beliefs someone has based on who they are and the context. I say limiting because frames cause certain things to be relevant or correct, and others to be irrelevant or wrong. And this is something going on all the time that we rarely think about. As an extreme example, the frame is what causes you to realize a classroom is not a bathroom. Less extreme: the frame is what causes you to listen while a teacher speaks in the classroom. It’s why you raise your hand for questions, sit facing the front, pass notes, etc. Like the rules of a situation. Frames delimit places and actions, but also conversations and thoughts.
So, if we’re talking about hypnotic persuasion there are some things that go with this conversation: hypnosis, Milton Erickson, NLP, language, theory, the mind, etc. But there are also some things that are probably irrelevant, UNLESS tied back in: Ethernet cables, metal music, filing cabinets, painting, jogging, etc. Each of these COULD be tied in, but in general, they are unrelated. In order to tie them in, I’d have to say something to tie it in: like memory is often thought of like files in a filing cabinet. But that’s not exactly how memory works and here’s why… But if I was talking about hypnosis and then pitched you filing cabinets, you’d probably think I lost my mind!
Keep frames in mind: who are you talking to? Where are you? What are the normal rules of engagement? What are you talking about? And yes, people too are frames! Where are their limitations? What are their beliefs? How are they thinking about this whole thing? How does your product or this personal change work in their worldview? Can they change? Do they deserve it? Are they just a lost cause?? And how would influencing that before going for your main point create a more persuasive experience? Would it be better to let them sit in their negativity or push them out of it before encouraging them to grow?
With these considerations in mind, now, you can start to use hypnotic influence with much more power! So, how would you do that?
How Do You Get More Hypnotic Influence With Hypnotic Techniques?
Now that you understand the framing and the keys to have in place before beginning, we can talk about hypnotic techniques. Until you have those in place, it’s kind of meaningless to talk about the rest of these things. So, if I were you, I’d explore each of the above in more detail before going further…
Embedded Commands, My Favorite Hypnotic Tool
First, embedded commands: an embedded command is when you place a hypnotic command into an otherwise innocuous sentence. This creates a situation of multiple possible meanings into a communication. The unconscious mind will follow many of them at the same time and begin to come to certain consensuses if used correctly. To use embedded commands is rather simple once you wrap your mind around it. You just need to place a command like “realize you’ve found a good teacher” into a sentence and mark it out with what’s called analogue marking, which can be done in a few ways.
The most popular ways to analogue mark are to pause before and after or to use command tonality, which is a downward inflection like you’d use when you give a command. Most people are familiar with this from teaching a dog to sit. And FYI if your dog will sit for others, but not always for you, THIS is likely your problem. It should sound seamless when done correctly, however. AND how you phrase the sentence will cause different things to happen in the mind of course, and this is again why hypnosis is AN ART! One of my favorite ways to embed commands is to ask seemingly innocuous questions that encourage someone to think the way I want them to by getting them to think, then kind of telling them how to think.
What can I say? I studied philosophy long enough to really get Platonic questioning! An example of this kind of linguistic construction is, “What’s it like when…” So, I could say, “What’s it like when you realize you’ve found a good teacher? How do you know that this person is a good teacher?” Did you see and hear what I did there? [Watch the video to see this in action!]
Seems innocuous, but causes you to consider my points: 1) “what does it feel like when you’ve found a good teacher?” encourages your mind to think about the question I want you to ponder so I can slip information in AS you do it; 2) REALIZE you’ve found a good teacher, me; 3) “how do you know this?” encourages you to think about your answer and meta-analyze it; and 4) this person, i.e. me, is a good teacher. This is obviously not something I can fully teach in one YouTube video, which is why I created an entire program about it! But if you’re curious enough to know more—see what I did there?!?!—(again, see video for the demonstration) then, checkout my free download: 6 Power Words Hypnotists Need to Know!
Hypnotic Anchors Are Amazing For Conversational Hypnosis
Second, anchors. Anchors as I discussed above are when you connect a sound, word, or gesture to an emotional experience. With hypnotherapy clients, this is beyond powerful and something you need to use if you’re not already. Particularly chaining anchors. But as I’ve already gone on much longer than I meant to, let’s discuss anchors in more everyday hypnotic persuasion so it’s less complicated. The usage of anchors is likely much more simple with sales or something like that. One powerful way that people use anchors is to anchor the want to buy a product or a very positive feeling of joy and also to anchor the want to not buy a product or negative feelings like hatred. Then, when the salesperson pitches their idea, they fire the positive anchor, which should begin to associate the emotional response to your pitch. If the prospect brings up the competition, fire the negative anchor, then, restate a good point and fire the positive anchor. It’s not always pretty, but it’s pretty effective.
Stories And Metaphors Move Minds For Hypnotists
This too is a nebulous topic, but just keep in mind that stories and metaphors can move the frames and help you to reframe things. I’m sure there’s at least one story in your life that deeply impacted you. For instance, I used to crack my neck several times a day, then read a few stories of people triggering pulmonary embolisms and strokes doing this! Now, I rarely crack my neck and every time I think about it, I just see veins cracking and blood plaque flowing into my brain. It causes a visceral reaction you can probably see on my face right now. Stories and metaphors can move a lot of weight for you semantically. Think about Prolifers à do you really want to be an antilifer? They controlled the frame with a metaphor…
Hypnotic Protocols And Frame Stacking
This is probably more relevant to therapists and coaches than salespeople, but the last thing I want to talk about in this video is using hypnotic protocols. NLP probably has the most of them, but each hypnosis tradition has different techniques that cause people to have certain reactions. The most obvious one is age regression as it’s shared in pretty much all forms of hypnosis. If you can regress someone to a certain age, you can cause their frame to shift drastically.
For instance, Milton Erickson liked to regress his clients to childhood and get them to remember what it was like to learn to write because this causes them to mentally get into the frame of learning as a small child, which is one of the first times you learned. He called it an “early learning set” because if you can get people into this early learning mode, they are much more likely to learn right now because the frame is one of learning and respect for the teacher. And if you stack it with other frames, you can begin to move someone from being in a state highly conducive to learning to then learning something you want them to learn.
This is powerful because as Erickson teaches, most of what hypnotists do in our offices is to reeducate people. They are not broken, but rather misinformed. Reeducation is the key to lasting change, at least according to Erickson. But the same can be said with other hypnotic protocols. They are often setup in order to help you stack the frame. Think about the circle of excellence in NLP, this has a client imagine themselves doing something they fail at, then imagining someone much better at it doing it, then stepping in and taking on those actions, beliefs, and feelings for themselves. If done correctly for the right situations, this can be mind-blowing for a client and also help them to rapidly learn a far better way to approach what’s been a challenge for them in the past.
Will they revert back to their old ways of doing things? Maybe, but if stacked well, probably not. I mean if you think back, you probably learned to write by hand and maybe in cursive… but if you had to write a letter now, would you handwrite it or would you type it? And frankly, wouldn’t you just email it? It’s a matter of getting them to see and FEEL it’s a better way. Then, if they choose to go back to the old way, they can, but it’s kind of foolish. AND of course, amping that emotion that going back is highly foolish is a really powerful technique, which is why Bandler does it SO OFTEN.
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